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How to write your wedding vows

Writing your own wedding vows might be really hard and many couples choose to omit this option because they simply don’t know what to write there. From the experience, vows exchange is the most intimate moment of the ceremony, where emotions are at its peak, and tears are shared. This is also the best way to customize your ceremony and make it really unique and special. Before you start working on your vows remember this, wedding vows are truly important as they symbolize the commitment and promises that you give each other will set the tone for your marriage.

Here is some simple guidance on how to start crafting your personal wedding vows:

  1. Discuss with your partner the tone and format of your vows. Do you want it to be humorous or poetic? How long? Do you want to write them separately and surprise each other at the ceremony or write together? We saw this couple of times when couples did not discuss the tone and format of the vows with each other and as a result, one partner had way too long and emotional vows and the other one kept it short and humorous.
  2. Now when you agree on the format you can start working on your writing. We always recommend writing your vows separately and at your own pace. Don’t expect to write the final draft at once, but instead, work in stages. Start from writing notes about your relationship, what did you like about your partner back then, what were your first thoughts at that moment. It is really great to show your partner how much your love grow over the years and how you both changed over time.
  3. Include a funny story. It is a perfect way to lighten up the tone and give your partner something to smile at.
  4. Write actual promises. Try to avoid clichés and words like “never” and “always”. But actually, say what you promise to your partner. It can be something serious like “I promise always be by your side” or something more down to earth as “I promise to remind you to put a sunblock when we go to the beach”. 
  5. Say why you want to get married to your partner and mention the future. This is a good moment to show your partner the qualities that you see in them and set some goals for the future. Maybe you already talk about having children or moving to another country, it is worth mentioning it.
  6. When you finish writing the vows leave them for a week and then get back and correct them if needed.
  7. Read them out loud. It is a great technique to practice and make sure you like the way it sounds. Also, you can make mental notes on where to pause longer or change your tone. It shouldn’t sound monotonous, so better practice in advance.
  8. Write them down. You can send your drafts to a professional calligrapher to make them look more celebratory or write them yourself. But it is always a great memory to keep from your wedding, so have it in writing.
  9. Have a backup plan. Sometimes couples feel way too emotional at the wedding and don’t feel like reading the vows out loud in front of the family. In this case make a draft for your officiant, who can read it for you or include some parts of your vows into the ceremony.
  10. Have fun and enjoy every second of your special day.
We hope that this little guide gave you some ideas and now you can start working on your vows. Just remember to be you and celebrate your love and relationship. Don’t do or write something just because it had to be said or written, be unique and authentic, and design your ceremony the way you want.

Best hidden places to elope in Central Park after quarantine is lifted in NYC

After quarantine wedding elopement in New York City.

Little by little New York City lockdown restrictions are lifting up and with the new permission from the government, couples who want to get married can now obtain their marriage license online.

We are getting ready to start accommodating summer elopements, but we still want to be sure that our clients and our team are safe, so here are our top 5 elopement locations in Central Park where you can practice social distancing from other ppl.

Top 5 elopement locations in Central Park where you can practice social distancing from other ppl:

1. Dene summerhouse

Intimate Wedding at Dene Summerhouse Intimate Wedding in Central Park
Dene Summerhouse Intimate Wedding in Central Park
We absolutely love this location, because it is far off the tourist path and very intimate. It is located 5 minutes away from the entrance, so you won’t be walking through the whole park. Although there are not that many people in the park right now, by the summer it will be very crowded, so the less you walk through the people the better. The summerhouse has a fantastic view of the skyline and is perfect for the intimate elopement ceremony. You can have up to 20 people there sitting.

2. Pinebank Arch

A real hidden gem of Central Park. This bridge is very elegant and ideal for an elopement. Located 7 minutes away from the Columbus Circle entrance, this bridge is one of the five remaining original cast-iron bridges in Central Park. It also has the views of the Midtown Skyline. There is no sitting area around that spot, so we would not recommend it for a large party. But a group of 4 would be perfect here.

3. Waterfall

Yes, there are lots of waterfalls in Central Park. Our most favorite is the one located between the Azalea Pond and the Ramble cave. This location is off the tourist path, so might be hard to find, but it’s absolutely beautiful. You have two options here: 1. Have a ceremony at the base of the waterfall, so that it will be right on your background. 2. Have a ceremony on top, with the waterfall underneath you. In this case, you will have the pond and Midtown skyline in the pictures.

4. Hallett Nature Sanctuary

This location is known only by the locals. Located minutes away from the popular Cop Cot, this spot is less traveled. It is a hidden four-acre preserve, which offers views of the pond, the lower park, and the Midtown skyline. When you walk all the up the path, you will stumble upon an observation point and it is an ideal location for the ceremony. This place will be perfect for an intimate elopement with less than 10 ppl.

5. Shakespeare Garden

Elopement in NYC on Summer 2020

We love this location for its beauty and simplicity. Located minutes away from the Belvedere castle, this location is not so easy to find. The garden is filled with beautiful plants and flowers ever mentioned in Shakespeare’s work and its blooming year around. You can have an intimate elopement or the medium size wedding here. This is an ideal summer location.
We find all of those locations ideal for intimate elopement ceremonies. These are not popular spots and very few people actually know about them. So if you feel anxious to go into public places and think it might not be safe, those hidden spots are your best options. And of course, morning ceremonies are better than the one during the day, as there are more people in the park during the day.
If you are planning to get elope in NYC this summer, but don’t know where to start your planning, contact us now info@daretodream.nyc and our experienced team will start working on your perfect elopement.

 

Tatiana Caicedo

Covid 19 updates

COVID-19 Updates – Message from Dare to Dream NYC team.

With the spread of coronavirus, lots of couples had to cancel or postpone their weddings in New York. We are doing our best to accommodate the clients, who had to change their plans due to quarantine and taking a limited number of May clients. And we are expecting to start booking fully for summer/ fall 2020.

Our team is following all the safety protocols and practicing zero contact polity. Our wedding planner and marriage officiant are working from home and accepting online consultations. Our photographers and videographers are keeping the safe distance from the couples and maintaining a no-contact policy.

Contact us for more info. 

Here are some Covid -19  related articles –

Best hidden places to elope in Central Park after quarantine is lifted in NYC.

We are getting ready to start accommodating summer elopements, but we still want to be sure that our clients and our team are safe, so here are our top 5 elopement locations in Central Park where you can practice social distancing from other ppl.

How to plan your small wedding while on quarantine

This spring became very challenging for everybody. Ban on travel, social distancing, and quarantine is what everyone is talking about and we can see how all that can give anxiety to the newly engaged couples, who just started to plan their intimate wedding or an elopement. But we think that this is the best time to start planning your wedding and here is why:

How to get married online in New York?

On April 19th, the New York governor Andrew Cuomo announced that now couples can get their marriage license online, and officials will be authorized to perform the ceremony over video conferencing platforms, such as Zoom, for example. So, what does all this mean?

We really think that ” When life gives you lemons – do lemonade” and even in this situation we still can create an unforgettable wedding experience.

So if you were planning to elope this spring season, but your plans were changed due to the quarantine, contact us now info@daretodream.nyc, and our experienced team will help you to make your big day unforgettable.

How to get married online in New York?

On April 19th, the New York governor Andrew Cuomo announced that now couples can get their marriage license online, and officials will be authorized to perform the ceremony over video conferencing platforms, such as Zoom, for example.

What does all this mean?
First of all, before the couples who wanted to get married had to obtain their marriage license in person at the marriage bureaus before they were shut down in March.
Now, couples are allowed to do it online and get married by the city clerk or marriage officiant at home. This is absolutely exciting news as if you were planning to get married this spring, but your plans were changed due to quarantine, you still can get married.

So, how can you plan your home wedding now?

  1. Set the date and contact the marriage bureau to apply for the license.
    Most of the couples had to postpone or cancel their weddings, but we really think that it is better to elope now and have your big family celebration later on. So maybe instead of postponing your big day, just make it smaller and spend the rest of the quarantine as a married couple. You can still invite all your friends and family to your online wedding ceremony.
  2. Decide if you want to get married by the city clerk or by the officiant.
    The difference will be in personalization. Usually, the city clerks are in a rush and the whole ceremony doesn’t last longer than 10 minutes. When you have an officiant, you can make the ceremony more personal with a brief description of your relationship, vows exchange and a unity ceremony.
  3. Dress up.
    Even if you have your wedding in your living room, it doesn’t mean you can’t dress up and look your best. Most likely, you already have a wedding dress, so this is your chance to rock it. If not, just really do it for yourself. This is your big day, and you need to make the most of it. You can be casual or add a fun element in your outfit. This is a perfect opportunity to be silly and have fun.
  4. Don’t stop at the ceremony, create the whole day experience.
    Again, this is all very personal, but why not to make the most of this unusual situation and have a blast. Create the schedule for the day, starting with the bridal preparation and mimosa drinks with your virtual bridesmaids and culminating by the cake smashing in your living room. You can actually even hire a wedding planner, who will help to organize the wedding day schedule and make it fun and exciting for all the participants. You can have a live DJ performing online and all your guests can dance at their houses.
  5. Capturing the moment.
    Wedding photos are essential and you absolutely must have them If you decide to have a ceremony in your house, maybe do it outside so that the photographer can use the wide lenses to capture the moment. He doesn’t need to come close to you but will need some space, so the backyard or rooftop will be ideal. If the ceremony will be inside the house and you are not sure about the actual photographer, do it yourself. Set the camera on timer and let it snap the pictures every 2 minutes. It might be too static, but again we are doing the best we can in this situation, so no complaints.

 

How can we help?

We are based in NYC and ready to physically accommodate couples living in our area. Meaning we can provide photography and video assistance and officiant if you want to have a ceremony outside your house. 

For the couples who want to get married at home, we can deliver flower bouquet, cake, and champagne for the celebration. Plus, our wedding planner is offering full-day online coordination. From creating the personalized banner for your zoom room wedding to live DJ performances. 

We truly think that any situation can bring joy and happiness and even at these uncertain times we can create beautiful and memorable moments for our couples. So if you were planning to elope this spring season, but your plans were changed due to the quarantine, contact us now info@daretodream.nyc and our experienced team will help you to make your big day unforgettable. 

How to plan your small wedding while on quarantine

This spring became very challenging for everybody. Ban on travel, social distancing, and quarantine is what everyone is talking about and we can see how all that can give anxiety to the newly engaged couples, who just started to plan their intimate wedding or an elopement. But we think that this is the best time to start planning your wedding and here is why:

1. First of all, right now, we are all working from home, so if you were planning to use wedding planning services, this is the best time to reach out and speak to the planner. As many weddings were postponed or canceled, there are good chances that your planner is free and can spend quality time with you.

2. Start to look for the venues. Again as most of the weddings were canceled, there are more available dates and you can reach out to the venues and inquire about the dates that you are interested in. Also, most of the venues are offering virtual tours right now. This is a unique opportunity to do a venue search with your partner without leaving the house.

plan wedding while quarantine

3. If you were planning to hire a DJ, there is no better time than now to reach out and schedule a zoom session. Most of the musicians and DJ’s are doing online performances, so you can hear them live and decide if that is the person you want to hire for your wedding.

4. If you were planning to have the first dance with your partner, use the quarantine time to actually learn how to dance. Again, all the dance studios are now operating online, which means you can hire a first dance couch and practice the moves at home with your partner.

5. Wedding invitations, save the date, wedding favors – you can do it all at home by yourself. This is the unique opportunity to acquire a new skill, make your wedding more personal and save money.

If you were planning to elope, here are some useful tips for you as well:

1. You can start looking for your officiant. You can check them online, hear how they conduct the ceremony and see which one you like the most. Reach out to them and ask all the questions you were interested in.

2. Perfect time to start working on your vows.

3. You will definitely need a photographer, so start looking now. Again as many couples canceled their weddings, most of the photographers who were booked before are available now. So if you had a photographer in mind, but he was not available, reach out and see if he will be able to take you.

4. Look for the elopement planner in the city you plan to have your ceremony. There are lots of destination planners, who actually don’t live in the cities they offer their services and that might be a problem. We are all pretty sure that after the quarantine there will be new rules and regulations on any gatherings, so every city will have its own rules and it is better to have a planner who actually lives in that city.

5. If you were planning to buy a dress for the ceremony, many bridal boutiques are offering now the online virtual dress try on. Why not use this opportunity and see what dress styles suit you. It will save so much time and will boost your wedding mood.

 

How can we help?

Dare to Dream NYC is based in New York, so if you are planning to get elope here, reach out to us and we will answer all your questions. We are still operating on a regular schedule and ready to plan a last-minute elopement. We dream big and ready to help you bring your dreams into reality.

Tatiana Caicedo (c)

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