You would be surprised, but there are a lot of ways to include kids in the wedding ceremony.
Weddings can be very tiring for kids, so it is always a good idea to occupy them with important tasks. In this way, they will feel responsible and proud to be a part of the meaningful event. Including little once to the wedding, always bring charm and extra cuteness to the ceremony and making the whole event more celebratory. So what are the roles and duties that can be preassigned to the kids?
- First of all, we have the page boy. Traditionally, the page boy’s responsibility was to hold the train of the bride’s dress. Nowadays it is more common for them to accompany the flower girls or the bridesmaids. Usually, boys under 10 are considered appropriate for this role. Page boys can be dressed in the kid’s tuxedos or suits.
- Next, will be the ring bearer. This will be the most serious position for the child as he will be carrying the actual rings to the best man. Usually, the ring bearer is a young boy between 4 – 8 years old, dressed in a tuxedo. He is walking after the groomsmen and before the flower girl. Traditionally ring bearers carry the wedding bands on a small pillow or a secured small box. Of course, there is a possibility that the rings can get lost, so you can either use the fake rings or tie the rings to the pillow so that they won’t fall. It is extremely cute to dress the ring bearer in a kid’s tuxedo or a suit.
- Flower girl. Flower girl usually comes after the ring bearer and just before the bride, sprinkle petals down the aisle. It is common for the flower girls to mimic the bride’s dress. Also, flower crowns and baskets are typical for the flower girl outfit.
Flower girl appearance signals the bride’s arrival and brings attention to the moment, so it can be a little intimidating for the little child. It is possible to have several flower girls and they can be accompanied by the ring bearer or walk with the page boys.
Usually, kids are not expected to stay at the altar during the whole ceremony. After walking the aisle they can sit next to their parents or join the kids section. Of course, kids’ roles are not essential for the ceremony, unlike the officiant or the witnesses and most of the couples are not even inviting them to the wedding at all. But we really think that it brings extra cuteness to the whole event and would highly recommend asking the little ones to participate.
Also, you can easily break the traditions and bring fresh air to the wedding, by making your dog carrying the rings and your best friend or grandma to be the flower girl. Weddings are supposed to be fun and exciting for the whole family, so feel free to mix and match it until you get something that really represents you and your relationship.
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