Elopement etiquette: do’s and don’ts.

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Elopement etiquette: do’s and don’ts.

Deciding to have an elopement is an intimate choice that you make between you and your partner because at the end of the day that is what your special day is about: the partnership between two souls. Just because eloping is the right choice for you that doesn’t mean your friends and family won’t be sad and disappointed that there won’t be a big day. Here are some do’s and don’ts of elopement etiquette that will soften the blow for everyone.

Do: Tell your friends and family first that you decided to elope! You don’t want to have friends and family find out from Facebook or from pictures so meet with friends and family and explain why you made the choice. I’m sure everyone will be more supportive if you let them know before rather than later.

Don’t: Don’t post photos on Instagram or Facebook without letting your friends and family know that you are eloping. Your friends and family will be sad that you didn’t let them know you decided to elope. Do: You can send out save the dates that explain when you will be eloping. This will help your friends and family feel like they are involved in your big day even though they won’t actually be there in person.

Do: You can send out save the dates that explain when you will be eloping. This will help your friends and family feel like they are involved in your big day even though they won’t actually be there in person.

Do: You also have the option to send out a marriage announcement after you have eloped. You can include a picture from your special day, this will also help your friends and family to see the beauty of the new couple and see some elopement photos.

Do: You can also consider having a small intimate party with your family and friends after your elopement. I’m sure everyone will want to celebrate your new marriage and at the celebration you can tell everyone about your private intimate elopement. The small gathering does not in any way have to be fancy, it could be a casual outing or a sit down dinner at a nice restaurant. It’s completely up to you and your partner.

Do: You should definitely send out Thank You notes if any of your family or friends sent you gifts of any kind. Thank you notes really help make your friends and family happy and appreciated. The notes let them know how much you appreciate their gift and their loving support! Handwritten notes are often the most intimate choice.

Don’t: Do not ever feel guilty for eloping. I’m sure some people will have some comments about the decision but at the end of the day eloping is a romantic and intimate way to get married and it’s the decision that you and your partner made together and you should feel good and happy with your decision always!

Do: Splurge on the honeymoon! Since you aren’t having a big fancy wedding with a lot of people you should definitely splurge on a nice honeymoon for you and your partner. You deserve it!

Having an elopement is a beautiful way to start and celebrate your marriage. You will definitely want to Hire a elopement photographer and a New York elopement officiant. The photographer will capture all the special and intimate moments that you will want to show family and friends that weren’t in attendance and the officiant will make everything official! If you are feeling stressed with all the planning you can also have a New York elopement planner help you plan everything for your New York elopement! We hope you found this article helpful when you are planning a elopement in New York.

Ryan and Grace penthouse elopement in New York

Ryan and Grace met back in 2004 when they both went to the same high school in the Philippines.

Ryan had a huge crush on Grace but after graduation, he moved to New York and Grace stayed in the Philippines. The two met again back in 2013 in New York and realized that they still have feelings for each other. 7 years later, New York became the symbolic place for the couple to say “I do” in the presence of friends and family.

We really love it when our couples choose the place that is dear to their hearts for the ceremony. In this case, it was the city. So for this elopement ceremony, we were looking for the venue with the most panoramic views of the city. Our luxury penthouse with the terrace was a perfect choice. This location has everything you need for an intimate celebration. The huge terrace can hold up to 20 people and in case of the rain, everyone can hide at the Penthouse.

Our couple also wanted to include the musician in the ceremony and that was such a wonderful idea. There is nothing like enjoying live music on the open terrace.

If you are planning to get eloped this year, but don’t know where to start the planning process, contact us now and our experienced team will help you to create the most unforgettable marriage proposal experience.


Beautiful elopement at Cop Cot, Central Park

Shelby and Mohammad were looking for an intimate ceremony location in Central Park. The couple wanted to keep the ceremony small and with the immediate family members only, so we knew that they would love the Cop Cot location. This beautiful gazebo is perfect for small ceremonies and its location is ideal for wedding pictures. The gazebo is located up on the hill and gives the Manhattan skyline views, that is why it is one of the best spots in the area.

Since most of the friends and family were not able to travel to NY, Shelby decided to add a Zoom session to the ceremony. This is absolutely the best decision in these circumstances and it was so great to see that they say “hi” to every person who joined the call.

The ceremony was quick and sweet, Mohammed’s nephew was responsible for bringing the rings to the couple and he was very serious about his job. The couple said “I do” and joined their families for warm congratulations. After that, they walked around the park with the photographer and took some styled shoots.

Congratulations Mohammad and Shelby on your special day!

If you are planning to elope this Holiday season, but not sure where to start the planning process, contact us now at info@daretodream.nyc and our experienced team will help you to create the most unforgettable wedding experience.